A lot of the time when you tell someone that you’re bisexual, they ask for your credentials. They ask how many men have you dated? How many women have you dated? Which one do you prefer? Which one have you had more sex with? These are incredibly personal questions that you wouldn’t ask a straight or gay person, but bisexuality has “less validity” so we get asked all these stupid, intimate questions. And if you don’t want to answer then someone will make assumptions about you but if you do answer, and the fact is out of the three people you fucked two of them are one gender and one of them is the other then people will decide whether you are gay or straight, they’ll make the decision for you.
fuckqueerss:
Biphobia at its finest on twitter.
It really pisses me off that bisexual women are not taken seriously and bisexual men aren’t even acknowledged as bisexual. It’s absolutely ridiculous.
If you don’t know anything about bisexuality, do not speak about it.
Both heterosexuals and homosexuals view bisexuality with misunderstanding, mistrust, hostility, and alienation. These scenarios do not leave bisexuals in the situation often referred to as ‘‘having the best of both worlds,’’ because ‘both worlds are closets’.
carnivalowl:
Saying that a man and a woman can’t be “just” friends is like assuming that a bisexual can’t have any friends at all because they might get a sudden urge to fuck them.
Both heterosexuals and homosexuals view bisexuality with misunderstanding, mistrust, hostility, and alienation. These scenarios do not leave bisexuals in the situation often referred to as ‘‘having the best of both worlds,’’ because ‘both worlds are closets’.
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from Attitudes and Self-Images of Male and Female Bisexuals by Carol D. Bronn
“both worlds are closets” Ouch. That one hit home (via loveintheshadowsistheonlykind)
It’s not uncommon for people to come out as gay after being in heterosexual relationships. But when the gay/straight binary is so enforced, these storylines become a media trope that disregards bisexuality. Because Drew is now partnered with a man, he must be gay–no one mentions the idea that Drew could be bisexual. When closeted people only have the option of coming out as gay, as opposed to bi or queer, we perpetuate two harmful tropes: that there are only two sexual orientations, and that the gender of your partner determines your sexual identity.
People who think that bisexual men and women are more likely to cheat on them are a special kind of ignorant.
Young and middle-aged bisexual adults reported poorer mental health than any other sexual orientation group examined. The researchers even go as far as saying that “previous studies may have overstated the risk of mental health problems for homosexuals by grouping them together with bisexuals.
…she says one of the things that bothers her is “not knowing who you’re going to bring home/end up with”
To which I have responded, “Mom, but you’ve never and will never have any idea about who I will bring home/end up with. You have no idea if I will fall for a red head or a brunette or a blond, someone tall or short, fat or slender, what ethnicity, what religion… so why is knowing my gender preference (if any) so important to you?”
This stumps her.
aj-walling:
This was posted in my dorm. It makes me really happy :)
The problem is that although gay and lesbian people face judgement and condemnation from some of their heterosexual counterparts, bisexual people face judgement and condemnation from both their gay and lesbian counterparts AND their heterosexual counterparts. You’d think that those who had faced judgement and condemnation from broader society would not be so quick to cast it on another member of their community – but it happens, and it happens far too often.
